Behind in my blogging, and so much is going on I'd better just do one big post. It's September 11th. Charles was not a writer, but he was moved to set out his account of what our 9/11 was like. For years, I've posted this on social media with the caption, "Still alive. Still together. …
Summer of AAAUGH
Charles died a week before Memorial Day. That last week became Funeral Week, of course, and then, summer. I knew pretty much instantly that the summer couldn't be 'about' anything but handling, dealing, adjusting, accommodating this enormous sea change. Grieving and mourning has been a constant layer on top of, and splitting focus with... getting …
Road trip, pt. 4
I've left this so long I'm actually on my next trip now. More on that later. So it's now Sunday the 14th and I'm still at Rainbow Mountain. It had been unclear whether they served breakfast, but it turned out that they laid out a continental breakfast in the bistro after 800. I wanted to …
B’kawk
Or "Road Trip (part 3)" Another mostly leisurely morning. I wasn't seeing the K's today. My only solid plan is I needed to end up in East Stroudsburg, PA by mid-afternoon. Van was working at a small outdoor festival in nearby Parksville, for which he'd made the t-shirts. A randomly chicken-themed fair in a field …
Road Trip (Part 2)
As mentioned, we'd been coming off weeks of high-summer weather and 100% humidity, where there was no thought of wearing clothing to get warmer . But here I was in the mountains. I'd brought a couple of long-sleeved t-shirts, a pair of lounge pants and one very light hoodie. It was chilly enough when I …
Road Trip (part 1)
Wednesday the 10th was a shift away from the same-old same-old. It started with my semi-annual doctor's appointment, where I have to get bloodwork done and have to fast beforehand. (so I usually aim for a treat-level restaurant or bakery breakfast as soon as I walk out that door) When I moved to town in …
Quickie
Things are about to be interesting, but not much has happened in the last couple of weeks. It's been very hot - spend most of my day holed up in the office with the air conditioner. Got some house projects done, like reorging the butler's pantry and going through a lot of the 'weird linens' …
Summer Samba
It took me a while to come to terms with the realization that generally, I don't enjoy summer. The cultural framing is "yay! no school! beach! cookouts! fun fun fun!" Yeah, OK, but 'no school' doesn't apply to a 9-5 working man, I don't like being in the sun, we're not allowed to barbecue in …
Give Yourself Some Grace
Two months gone. Well, eight weeks on Friday, two months on the 20th. Going to the cemetery two weeks ago was tougher than I thought it would be. Sort of the realization that, whatever else happens now, the cemetery and the mausoleum and his crypt will always be exactly the same, every time I visit. …
Independence Day
So, yeah, awful couple of weeks for the country. I am torn - part of me wants to go to every protest and throw lots of money at all the causes, but mostly I'm like, "I really don't have emotional room or energy to tackle any of this right now". Let me build my own …
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