Two months gone. Well, eight weeks on Friday, two months on the 20th. Going to the cemetery two weeks ago was tougher than I thought it would be. Sort of the realization that, whatever else happens now, the cemetery and the mausoleum and his crypt will always be exactly the same, every time I visit. …
Author: Eric Peterson
Conductor, hornist, singer, business analyst, New Yorker. Happily gay-married. Knit and ice-skate for fun.
Independence Day
So, yeah, awful couple of weeks for the country. I am torn - part of me wants to go to every protest and throw lots of money at all the causes, but mostly I'm like, "I really don't have emotional room or energy to tackle any of this right now". Let me build my own …
The Appendix Issue
I have a nice couple of weeks ahead with no serious plans until Bunthorne Boy and the Viking arrive a couple of Fridays away. Which is good, because this past week was hopping. Monday was just standard, but Tuesday, I went into the office. Had some lunchtime errands - wanted to see if a couple …
One Month In
Today, at 4:45 p.m. One month. I have my first appointment with a grief counselor tonight. I'm, um, looking forward to it? Kind of? I've been getting a lot done, but definitely getting to points where the apartment makes me stir-crazy. I'm definitely going to reserve Sunday (or, as with this weekend, a Monday holiday) …
Loooong Weekend
I took this morning off, have the afternoon off anyway (thank you, organization which decided to change 'summer Fridays' from 'off at 3:00' to 'entire half day off' this summer). And I have Monday off for Juneteenth (again, thank you, progressive organization I work for). So I should be able to get a bunch done …
Three weeks in
OK, so here we are. I've been back at work for two weeks, although taking some afternoons off to make phone calls. Work has been fine, everyone has been very supportive. I went to the office for the first time this past Wednesday, so got to have a lot of good water-cooler conversations. Our HR …
Tool Time
So... now it's Saturday, May 28th and C has been safely sent off in style. I am completely exhausted and peopled-out. Dad was staying through through the weekend, but Sam had to head back home immediately to work on a project, and had a Saturday morning flight. Friday night, he starts looking at his phone. …
The Funeral
Friday, May 27th, was a beautiful blue-sky day. I was grateful that, unlike the viewing, I didn't really have to do much of anything except be present and brought from place to place. It felt like we had very little downtime between Thursday's and Friday's events. Sam, Dad and I got up, I made sure …
The Viewing
Ah, yes, thinking about the day of the viewing, I realized I did forget some plot points about the day before. First, I had gone to the bank to pull cash out of our household account for the funeral home and for incidentals, and also to get quarters for laundry. Turns out, they had no …
Interregnum
Tuesday and Wednesday (May 24, 25) were days of catching up and nailing down. After the 'go go go' of getting the funeral planned, I actually had some time to do some normal things that were outstanding and bugging me, like retrieving the mattress cover from the laundromat, and going to Astoria to pick up …
The Toast Point Page 